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Traveling While Kinky LB153

This week’s episode is a listener request, but Kayla was a bad podcast co-host and forgot to write down the person’s name. She should be punished, but she might like that too much. But thanks to this mystery kinkster, our topic — before the holidays start in earnest — is about traveling while kinky. We looked at two sides of the conversation: traveling with your BDSM gear and toys and maintaining your power exchange and kinky mindset while you travel.

In this episode:

  • Enter to win our giveaway with Lodbrock!
  • We’ll be at the Woodshed in Orlando on December 1 — if you’re local to the area, come see us!
  • Bringing your kinky gear — how to pack, what to pack, and whether you need to bring anything at all
  • Being your kinky selves — collars, titles, and tasks

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Woodshed Shopping Extravaganza — details for December 1 event

TSA — What You Can Bring on a Plane

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His Two Favorite Penis Masturbators

Consider this a tale of two penis masturbators. Proof-positive that you can enjoy multiple types of stimulation — which is why (when you can afford it) having multiple sex toys can be really fun.

We’re joining in for Kink of the Week to talk about John Brownstone’s two favorite masturbators.

Tenga Egg

picture of wavy tenga eggWhile in London at my first Eroticon, shopping at a sex toy store (as you do) I picked up a Tenga egg for John Brownstone, on a whim. I didn’t even really know what it did. But I wanted him to know I was thinking of him while we were apart.

Does anything else say, “I’m thinking of you” like sex toys?

The Tenga egg is a masturbator that fits over your penis. You stroke it up and down so that textured material stimulates your penis instead of just your hand. Straight out of the package, it’s ready to go because it’s already lubed up.

He looooooves his Tenga egg. I didn’t realize it was supposed to be a one-time use toy until he confessed that he had to be very careful when he cleaned it.

“We can buy more Tenga eggs!!!”

I was a bit appalled. We’re not rolling in money, but like the eggs in the refrigerator, I can buy more if he really wants some. It seems fair. He lets me buy the expensive cage-free eggs to eat, and I’m happy for him to have these eggs to play with.

He doesn’t have to keep re-using it, but he loves it. (But also, I really need to buy him new ones.)

Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo

Hot Octopuss Pulse III DuoFull disclosure: we received the Pulse III Duo back in 2016 in exchange for an honest review. And we were happy to do it. It’s not a cheap masturbator, though, and without the review, we might not own one now.

But from that moment, Hot Octopuss has been one of our favorite sex toy companies. We’ve tried their other penis toys — a smaller version of the Pulse (aka the Pocket Pulse) and the Atom cock ring (the standard and the Plus). When I say “we,” I mostly mean him. He uses, I watch, and we both get off in our own way.

But time and time again, he comes back to the Pulse III Duo (affiliate link). Probably for the same reason I consistently use the same vibrators. It makes him feel something that other toys just don’t.

When I went to Eroticon in 2017, that same trip where I bought the never-to-be-thrown-away Tenga egg, he told me to tell Aly and Adam from HO one thing:

“I used it until the battery died, and now I have to wait to recharge it so I can use it again.”

It was a strange first introduction, but it sums up our relationship with Hot Octopuss. Frankly, once you’ve told a complete stranger your partner loves a sex toy so much they wore the battery down, you form a bond that’s not easily broken.

Also, if you’re wondering if he had a good time without me, I think we know the answer to that, too.

The Pulse III (Duo or Solo) is designed for people with penises who also have physical disabilities, but it can be used by anyone with a penis. You can be soft or rock hard when you put your penis in it. You don’t even have to stroke yourself with it. The oscillations (instead of vibrations) do the work for you.

Which One is His Absolute Favorite?

So how does he pick which he loves better? I think that’s like picking your favorite child. But he doesn’t need a favorite. It’s not about loving one masturbator over another. Like people who love their collection of dildos or vibrators, he likes different sex toys for different reasons. Because they make him feel good in their own way.

By embracing different sensations, he can pick and choose what to play with when the mood strikes. And the next time he refers to me as a “greedy girl” (which I am), I’m going to remind him about the times when he uses both. Not at the same time, but certainly in the same evening. Stroking himself with one, then switching to the other. I think that’s why they’re called toys, y’all. Because you get to play.

Since we’re always looking for more ways to play, what are your favorite penis masturbators? Share in the comments below or talk to us on Twitter!

Sex Toy Guide: Our Favorite Sex and Kink Toys

Affiliate links are included throughout this post for some products (but not all). If you click on a link and make a purchase, we may make a small commission. This fuels our coffee addiction and helps support the podcast, community, and website. You pay no more than you otherwise would and sometimes we’re able to offer you a discount through our partnerships. Enjoy!

The holiday shopping season is right around the corner and as a companion to our annual “Favorite Sex Toys of the Year” episode, we thought we’d pull together our ultimate list of loved sex and kink toys. While all kinds of sex toys make our annual list each year because they did delicious things to one or both of us, only a few sex toys get used over and over again. These are the kinky and sex toys and products we’ve listed here.

We will update this list to include more kink or sex toys we use or play with on a regular basis.

For those who may be curious…or looking for something new to try, here are all of our absolute favorite sex and kinky toys and products…so far.

Original Magic Wand

original magic wandIt may be cliche but we’re good with that. The Original Magic Wand aka the Hitachi is a sex toy and kink classic. It’s massively intense vibrations give me (Kayla) squirting orgasms over and over again, to the point that I beg for it to stop. Of course, masochist that I am, I’m disappointed when it’s over and decide I really want more. This type of wand massager is used in forced orgasm play because, thanks to the intensity, it’s easy for most people to get off.

Note: The Original Magic Wand isn’t a discreet vibrator. It’s loud and rumbly and can induce screams and shrieks in the person using it. The version we use is also corded which means you need an electrical outlet. A rechargeable version is available, and we’ve been told it’s just as powerful, but we’ve never tried it for ourselves.

Interested? You can buy the Original Magic Wand almost anywhere. Good Vibes (affiliate partner) offers a variety of specials, especially during the holiday season to help you save a little cash.

Tyler by Svakom

Tyler by SvakoNot everyone needs a cock ring because not everyone has a cock, but if you do, we highly recommend the Tyler by Svakom. It was our first cock ring to try and we were hooked from the start. The buzzing feels good against both clit and balls, depending on which way it’s worn. The ring itself is nice and stretchy so John Brownstone never feels uncomfortable (in a negative way). We’ve both come from the buzzing of the Tyler. It’s rechargeable and made of silicone so it’s easy to clean. It’s good for penetration or masturbation.

Interested? Check it out on Svakom.

Pulse III Duo by Hot Octopuss

Pulse III Duo by Hot OctopussAgain, this is another sex toy that requires at least one person with a cock. The Pulse III Duo from Hot Octopuss is one of John Brownstone’s legitimately favorite sex toys. He uses it alone or when we’re together. Designed to help people with erectile dysfunction, it can cause an erection without a lot of movement or thrusting which is great for people with mobility issues. John Brownstone uses it for longer and harder erections and because it feels so damn good.

Note: The vibrations are created by oscillations instead of typical vibrations. It’s a piston movement within the plate that’s different than what you may be used to. The Pulse III Duo can be used between partners depending on how it’s worn. If the plate faces up, your partner can grind against it and feel the sensations too. It’s a great way to ride your partner and get yourself off (ask me how I know). The version we have includes a remote control.

Interested? The Pulse is available at different stores but during the holidays, you may find the best deals directly through Hot Octopuss (affiliate partner).

Kinky Cloth

kinky clothOkay, so we don’t own a sex toy from Kinky Cloth, only tee-shirts but these are our absolute favorite shirts. If you’ve watched a few videos (either in the community or on our YouTube channel) you see us in them all the time. We’re determined to buy more and have a variety for videos and local community events (once our budget cooperates). The shirt itself is comfortable and washes well. No shrinking in the dryer or falling apart at the seams. Our plan is to get another set that says Mrs. Babygirl and Mr. Daddy – because we’re ridiculously adorable like that.

Note: While their existing inventory is very diverse, you might not find your preferred title or dynamic among their designs. Guess what? They will custom make your shirt – all you have to do is ask!

Interested? Check out Kinky Cloth (affiliate partner) – Use code KINKYKAYLA and save 25 percent!

The Butters

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We’ve never made any secret of our love of The Butters lube. Since trying this all-natural, thick, and creamy lubricant, we’ve also used the body creams in erotic massage and several skin care products on legs, face, and other body parts. As a lube, it stands out from every other product we’ve tried. It’s not drippy or cold, and it makes your skin feel good while you’re fucking and after. Even better, you don’t get that post-penetration gloppy or gunky feeling.

Note: Read the ingredients carefully. All of the products made use natural ingredients but if you have allergies, you’ll want to be careful. You can use Butters on silicone sex toys but not rubber, Cyberskin, TPE, or jelly. It also hasn’t been tested with latex or vinyl so proceed with caution.

Interested? Use code kayla to save 5 percent: The Butters (affiliate partner)


Bear Things

Our favorite set of floggers comes from a company called Bear Things. Unfortunately, they don’t make them anymore. Thankfully, we also purchased my leather play collar and cuffs from there which they do make, so they’re on the list! You won’t be surprised, I’m sure, that the collar/cuff set has plenty of purple in it, but if that’s not your color, there are other options. We also purchased a bit gag. It matches my collar set and turns me into a sexual beast whenever John Brownstone puts it on me.

Interested? You can find Bear Things on Etsy and on a standalone website – Bear-Things.com

My Nawashi Rope

We’ve got bags full of rope from all different sources. Hemp, jute, cotton, even leather. Our absolute favorite for it’s softness and color comes from My Nawashi. If you’ve got a signature color and a desire to learn rope bondage, we absolutely recommend My Nawashi. You can even special order rope in your favorite color. Each order includes a Japanese blindfold that is decadent to wear and beautiful to look at.

Interested? Visit My Nawashi on Etsy.

Need More Sex Toys?

John Brownstone makes wooden paddles and canes with wooden handles available for purchase through our Kinky Fuckery Shop.

Check out past Favorite Toy episodes and find out what we enjoyed in our kinky fuckery at least once or twice…

2016 Favorite Toys (episode 65)

Kinky Sex Toy Fun for Mother’s Day (episode 34)

2015 Favorite Toys (episode 17)

Stuff We Love (a resource page for all the products and things we love!)

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