In episode 102, we’re talking about the idea of equality in a D/s relationship. We each come at this in different, but not opposite ways. Are the people in a D/s relationship equal or should they have balance? Or should it be a combination of both? We don’t claim to have all the answers but we do have plenty of thoughts.

In this episode:

  • The 100th episode giveaway has ended. The winner will be announced (with their permission) next week.
  • Kayla’s random lube giveaway is still going on!
  • Are D/s relationships equal?
  • Should we call it equality or balance?
  • Why balance matters (according to Kayla)
  • What equal or balanced looks like in your D/s relationship is unique to you
  • Both D and s should get something positive from the exchange – call it balance or equality or whatever you’d like
  • When a relationship is no longer equal or balanced, you have to talk about it. A small change might be enough or it may be time for something more drastic.

Links from the show:

Random Lube Giveaway

5 Signs of an Unhealthy Imbalance in Your D/s Relationship

Financial Control in Our D/s Relationship (Episode 13)

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