We use a lot of products in our kinky fuckery, to run the Loving BDSM website podcast, and as two people living and loving the BDSM life. So we thought it would be handy to put them all in one list. Everything here is something we’ve tried or experienced personally. Some links will be affiliate links. If you click the link and make a purchase, we make a small commission. You don’t pay any more than usual (sometimes you pay less), and you help support the blog, podcast, and our coffee addiction.
Obviously we love our BDSM toys, especially spanking and bondage gear. Some of our favorite toys are random things we’ve found at shops, clubs, or around the house. But some items are things we’ve received or bought from very different shops online. Here are the ones we love the most.
Lodbrock — BDSM restraint and impact play
My Nawashi — Bondage rope
Bear-Things — Cuffs, collars, and other leather pieces
Cane-iac — Delrin canes, paddles, and other impact play toys
Kink Crate — Subscription service filled with different kink toys every month!
Kinky Cloth (Use code KINKYKAYLA to save 25%!) — Clothing, toys, and other kinky gear that’s fun and light-hearted with a Caregiver/little twist
Oxyd Creations — Sustainable BDSM gear including collars, cuffs, harnesses, and more made from recycled bicycle rubber
We’ve been fortunate to get to try all kinds of sex toys over the past several years. Not everything makes our list of favorites, though. Some are average, and some are terrible. These are toys and/or the companies that we absolutely love — that aren’t already listed under BDSM gear!
The Butters Lube (Use code Kayla and save 5%) — LUUUUUUUUBE!
Hot Octopuss — We love everything they make including the Pulse III Duo, the Atom, the Atom Plus, and the Queen Bee
The Original Magic Wand — great for orgasm play and big orgasms
Tyler by Svakom — It’s a cock ring that buzzes for the wearer OR your partner
Crescendo by Mystery Vibe — a bendable vibrator for anyone and everyone
Ambit Effulgence — a beautiful dildo from Godemiche
HUM dildo (Use code kaylalords to save 10%) — it’s a dildo that remembers what you like
The best porn isn’t the stuff you find for free on PornHub or other tube sites. It’s the stuff that’s made with heart and with consent, sex positivity, inclusivity, and diversity.
You can find a few books we recommend for people who want to learn more about BDSM on our resources page. Here we’ve listed books that we enjoyed whether as an educational resource or just because it was erotic and entertaining. And as you can see…we’re definitely readers.
When Someone You Love is Kinky by Dossie Easton
Some things we’ve tried and love don’t fit into a neat category. So this is the place to find the random but (hopefully) helpful and useful.
Simpatic.Us (Use code LOVINGBDSM10 to save $10!) — A survey and report system that helps you and your partner start the conversation about moving into a kink and D/s life.
It takes a lot to run a podcast and website. Here are some of the things we use because they work well and we love them.
Blubrry Podcast Hosting — use code KaylaLords and get one month free
Canva — for graphic creations
Will this list change and grow over time? Absolutely! We love discovering new sexy, kinky, interesting, useful, and fun things, and we definitely love sharing them with you.