From Daddy’s Desk: Silence as Punishment

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In the second installment of From Daddy’s Desk, I’m talking about form of punishment, usually in long distance relationships, of silence. Yes, I’ve used it in the past – before I knew better – and no, I don’t think it’s effective. There are better ways to instill discipline and change behaviors. Silence as Punishment Takeaways…

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“Tests” in D/s Relationships LB103

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We’re a little bit ranty this week, but it’s all for a good cause. A new-to-us red flag appears to be submissives being “tested” on their D/s relationship without knowing it, without consenting to it, and without cause. Are there ways to prove yourself to each other in a D/s relationship? Definitely but not the…

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5 Real Ways to Prove Yourself in D/s Relationships

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Are you a Dominant who believes your submissive has to “prove” their devotion through special tests you set? Or are you a submissive who has been asked to prove yourself with “tests” that make you uncomfortable, hit hard limits, or just don’t seem right? Yeah, you’re not alone. Here’s the thing about D/s and BDSM…ready…

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Can a Handjob Be Kinky?

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Depending on your relationship with penises and handjobs, it might not be something you’ve given a lot of thought to. And if you think of them at all, you might not immediately think of BDSM or kink. I guess the simplest answer to this question is that anything can be kinky, including a handjob. Okay,…

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Equality and Balance in D/s Relationships LB102

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In episode 102, we’re talking about the idea of equality in a D/s relationship. We each come at this in different, but not opposite ways. Are the people in a D/s relationship equal or should they have balance? Or should it be a combination of both? We don’t claim to have all the answers but…

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