4 Ways Your BDSM Scene Can Accidentally Go Wrong

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You’ve got the perfect BDSM scene mapped out in your head. Negotiations are done, limits discussed, and expectations set. You know where you’ll be, what your partner will wear, and how this scene will play out. It’s all right there in your mind. Both of you are excited and ready to play. How can anything…

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Book Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink by Tristan Taormino

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I’m a big reader – fiction, nonfiction, kinky, not kinky – give me a book, and I’m a happy girl. Starting a kinky book club for the Loving BDSM community wasn’t just for the benefit of members. It was also to give me more excuses to read more books (the truth is revealed). For August,…

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Coasting in Your D/s Relationship LB097

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In episode 97, we bare our souls a bit to share how we started coasting along in our D/s relationship only to find we’d coasted in separate directions. We caught it in time, but not everyone does. Hopefully, our struggles with not paying enough attention will help someone else help your own D/s relationship. In…

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How to Start Communicating Again and Reset Your D/s Relationship

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Most relationships don’t explode in a blaze of glory because of a single thing. When you see relationship drama unfold on your social media feed, it’s easy to keep watching and be grateful that’s not you It’s almost comforting. You know that’s not your relationship. You and your partner are good. Right? Remember one thing:…

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Do All Submissives Go Commando?

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Think of one of the sexiest things you can imagine in D/s. Does it involve a distinct lack of underwear? In public? It does for us, but for other kinksters, going commando is a hard limit. They want to, need to, or have to wear underwear. One day, maybe, we’ll get to a point where…

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