Are you new to D/s and struggling with where to start and what resources to trust? Welcome to the kinky, wild, amazing world of power exchange. Before you get started, remember that everyone has a different experience with and different opinions of D/s and kink. There are very few truths or standards in this lifestyle except…

Consent and safety

The rest is fun, exploration, and a way to grow as a person and in your relationship.

About Dominance

7 Things to Remember When Getting to Know a Dominant – Kayla Lords

10 Signs He’s an Asshole, Not a Dominant – Kayla Lords

The Definition of a Daddy Dom – Kayla Lords

Dominants Who Give Oral are Still Dominant – Kayla Lords

Do You Appreciate? – John Brownstone

Building Confidence – John Brownstone

Earning Submission – John Brownstone

What Does a Good Dominant Look Like? (Episode 3)

What’s the Difference Between a Daddy and a Sir (Episode 32)

About Submission

3 Things Submissives Do To Turn Off Dominants – Kayla Lords

10 Signs You’re Confused About How Submission Really Works – Kayla Lords

You Can Be a Good Submissive Even With Low Self Esteem – Kayla Lords

Being a Babygirl is More Than You Think – Kayla Lords

Get in Her Mind – John Brownstone

Indulgence – John Brownstone

Bad Behavior and Red Flags of Submissives (Episode 26)

Dealing With and Understanding Subfrenzy (Episode 67)

About D/s Relationships

You Will Survive the Pain of Heartbreak – Kayla Lords

Aligning Limits – John Brownstone

Making the Switch from Vanilla to D/s (Episode 16)

Finding the Right D/s Partner for You (Episode 23)

Disagreements and Arguments in a D/s Relationship (Episode 25)

About BDSM, Kink, and the Lifestyle

Anyone Can Be Kinky (Episode 1)

Do You Understand Informed Consent? – Kayla Lords

BDSM Doesn’t Magically Fix Your Life – Kayla Lords

6 Ways Munches Are Like Any Other Social Gathering – Kayla Lords

Your Kink Isn’t My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay – Kayla Lords

Do You Know Your Limits? – Kayla Lords

Take Precautions When You Get Kinky – Kayla Lords

Aftercare and Punishment – John Brownstone

Staying Safe While Getting Kinky (Episode 12)


This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to D/s, but if you need a place to start, this will give you something to work with.