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This is the full archive of every Loving BDSM episode we’ve ever produced. We began in August 2015 and with a few short breaks (2-4 weeks at a time) we’ve been going strong ever since.

There is no rhyme or reason to the order of our topics. We discuss what matters to us in our D/s relationship and BDSM experience, but we also happily accept topic suggestions from listeners.

Starting around episode 53, we began to end every show with a “bonus section” to help keep Kayla from going off-topic so much, and now have an entire group of “proud crickets” who listen to that part every week. That’s when we talk about our lives and things we’re doing.

A listener once said that the Loving BDSM podcast is like sitting around the kitchen table, having coffee, and chatting with friends. And that’s a perfect definition to us. We hope to keep that vibe going for a long time.

Whether you’re new to BDSM and D/s or you’ve been doing it a long time, we think there’s something here to help you on your kinky journey.

Thinking of Your D/s Relationship as a Team

Pardon the missed episode last week and our fuzzy brains this week. It took us a while to find the words we wanted for this one, but the basic idea is this…D/s isn’t just about what you do for each other or what you get as a submissive or a Dominant. It’s also about what you do as a team or a single unit.

In this episode:

  • We were sick last week so there was no episode on November 9
  • Enter to win our giveaway with Lodbrock!
  • We’ll be at the Woodshed in Orlando on December 1 — if you’re local to the area, come see us!
  • We’ve had to rely on each other a lot in the last few weeks.
  • D/s isn’t just about what a submissive does for their Dom or what a Dom does to their submissive. It’s about what you create and build together.

Links from the show:

November 2018 Giveaway — Enter now!

Woodshed Shopping Extravaganza — details for December 1 event

Equality and Balance in D/s Relationships (podcast episode)

Kinky Fuckery Shop

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Traveling While Kinky LB153

This week’s episode is a listener request, but Kayla was a bad podcast co-host and forgot to write down the person’s name. She should be punished, but she might like that too much. But thanks to this mystery kinkster, our topic — before the holidays start in earnest — is about traveling while kinky. We looked at two sides of the conversation: traveling with your BDSM gear and toys and maintaining your power exchange and kinky mindset while you travel.

In this episode:

  • Enter to win our giveaway with Lodbrock!
  • We’ll be at the Woodshed in Orlando on December 1 — if you’re local to the area, come see us!
  • Bringing your kinky gear — how to pack, what to pack, and whether you need to bring anything at all
  • Being your kinky selves — collars, titles, and tasks

Links from the show:

November 2018 Giveaway — Enter now!

Woodshed Shopping Extravaganza — details for December 1 event

TSA — What You Can Bring on a Plane

Kinky Fuckery Shop

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D/s Mindsets and Shutting Out the Vanilla World LB152

I’ll be honest…I didn’t know how to title this episode because we talk about a very nuanced topic that can mean something different for every D/s relationship. Basically, it’s about feeling your Dominant or submissive self when the vanilla world intrudes, but also tips on how to block out the vanilla world so you can reconnect as kinky people. It’s a wide ranging conversation, and one we’ve had in many forms on the podcast over the years.

In this episode:

  • Vanilla life will always be a part of our D/s life. It’s nearly impossible to completely shut out — unless you’re off the grid and in a bunker. I like Starbucks too much for that.
  • We have to learn to live with both and find ways to be our kinky selves in the middle of a vanilla world.
  • But that doesn’t mean we can’t find ways to create boundaries for ourselves so we can get into our kinky headspace.
  • Reasons why we need these boundaries
  • Ideas for how to achieve those boundaries

Links from the show:

4 Ways to Get Into a Kinky Mindset (blog post)

Kinky Fuckery Shop

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Why Dominants Need to Be Consistent LB151

In episode 151, we talk about a topic near and dear to John Brownstone’s heart — if you want to lead the relationship (as a Dominant), you need to be consistent.

In this episode:

  • If you want to give a kinky fuckery gift this upcoming holiday season, check out our Kinky Fuckery Shop!
  • This week’s blog post talks about what happens when you’re consistent in your D/s relationship.
  • Why does consistency matter?
  • How can Dominants be more consistent?
  • What can submissives do if they’re not getting the consistency they need?
  • Why submissives also need to be consistent.
  • Consistency does not mean perfection. Life will get in the way. But it’s something to strive for.

Links from the show:

6 Reasons Why Being Consistent Matters in Your D/s Relationship (blog post)

Kinky Fuckery Shop

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Feeling Confident as a Dominant LB150

Thanks to a listener suggestion, we’re talking about confidence for Dominants — how normal it is to not be fully confident and how to become more confident. And also, ranting about why we need to stop expecting immediate confidence from Doms at all times and in all situations.

In this episode:

  • If you want to give a kinky fuckery gift this upcoming holiday season, check out our Kinky Fuckery Shop!
  • This episode was suggested by Chintz Curtain on Twitter — thank you for the idea!
  • The blog post that goes with this episode is about things that new Dominants need to know — and one of those things revolves around confidence — getting it, maintaining it, and dealing with the lack of.
  • It’s normal not to feel confident — new or experienced.
  • Times when John Brownstone doesn’t feel confident.
  • How he overcomes it.
  • Time and experience helps anyone build confidence.
  • It’s okay to admit when you’re nervous.

Links from the show:

13 Things New Dominants Need to Know (blog post)

Kinky Fuckery Shop

Become a patron on Patreon

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