We hear from plenty of kinksters that Loving BDSM is their go-to resource for kink, D/s, and relationships. That’s the most flattering thing we could imagine. But we also believe that the best education is a well-rounded one. With that in mind, here are other resources we recommend to help you learn more about D/s, BDSM, and kinky fuckery.

Professional Help

Whether you need a kink-friendly therapist or accountant, or you have legal questions, these are the resources we recommend.

National Coalition of Sexual Freedom (NCSF)

NCSF Kink-Aware Professionals Directory

Blogs to Follow

Many of these blogs are personal accounts of other people’s BDSM experiences, light or hardcore. They all have something to add to the BDSM conversation, and you’ll definitely learn something from them.

Molly’s Daily Kiss

Rebel’s Notes

Coffee and Kink

Diary of a Married Woman

Vagina Antics

Websites to Check Out

So how are the websites different from blog? Well, usually they’re huge publications with multiple writers – and Kayla writes for some of them. They don’t always focus on the personal stories and usually discuss what you need to know.

Kinkly

Submissive Guide

Dominant Guide

Fetish.com

A Submissive’s Initiative

Podcasts to Listen To

We know we’re not the only podcasts around. Here are a few one or both of us listen to that we enjoy!

The Dildorks

My Life on the Swingset

Multiamory

The People of Kink

Books to Read

We mostly read blogs and listen to podcasts these days but here is a (growing) list of books one or both of us have read and recommend. If you’ve read something that you loved, let us know and we’ll add it to our personal library.

The Loving Dominant by John Warren

Two Knotty Boys: Showing You the Ropes

Decoding Your Kink by Galen Fous

50 Shades of Kink: An Introduction to BDSM by Tristan Taormino

So there you have it, one resource to help you navigate BDSM and kink.

This isn’t everything you could possibly know, and we definitely don’t think we have all the answers. What we believe and share is based on our own research and experiences. Talk to another kinkster, and they’ll share something different. Forget about the “true” or “real” stuff in kink, and figure out what works best for you.

Remember: the only real rules are consent and safety.