Jealousy in D/s Relationships LB148

Most of us use the term “jealousy” as a catch-all for worry, envy, insecurity and other negative feelings in a relationship. So let’s talk about what we mean when we say we’re feeling “jealous” and how we can deal with it in a D/s relationship.

In this episode:

  • This episode was suggested by Precious who specifically asked about how Doms deal with jealous submissives, but it’s such a big topic, we didn’t want to focus on just that.
  • Jealousy impacts both sides of the D/s slash.
  • It’s a catch-all word we use, but there are two parts to it: envy and insecurity.
  • Envy isn’t just what you feel when you’re single and want a partner and everyone else has their perfect D or s. It happens in relationships too.
  • If you don’t talk about envy, it can fester and breed resentment — hurting your relationship.
  • Insecurity is much more common and tends to come from fear and bad tapes.
  • It can lead to dangerous, abusive situations though.

Links from the show:

5 Signs of Unhealthy Insecurities in D/s Relationships (blog post)

Understanding Bad Tapes in Your D/s Relationship (podcast)

Professor Sex

Loving BDSM Resource Page

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2 Responses

  1. October 2, 2018

    […] I have followed LovingBDSM on YouTube, twitter, email, and now fetlife, and have listened to their podcasts, since the beginning of my D/s journey. (I remember being so excited when Kayla recommended my blog on her website!) Kayla and John Brownstone released a new video today, Jealousy in D/s Relationships. I’ve decided to break it down and blog about it. I highly recommend either watching this video or listening to their podcast […]

  2. November 29, 2019

    […] Jealousy in D/s Relationships (podcast episode) […]

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