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Age Differences in D/s LB140

With an 18 year age difference between us, it’s safe to say that we’re not afraid of being with someone who’s a drastically different age. As with everything in D/s, there is no one size fits all here, and for many of us, it’s not about age, but about the person. A big age difference isn’t some sort of requirement in D/s nor is it the only option. Some people have a yuck factor and some people think it’s just not sustainable. We fundamentally disagree with both premises, so lets talk about it.

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  • We mentioned in a past episode that we might discuss age differences and Twitter jumped on it. Then today DomSigns shared a Tumblr post from someone who said that a big age difference implied a power imbalance, and we knew we had to talk about it.
  • John Brownstone is 18 years older than Kayla Lords.
  • Age differences aren’t a requirement in D/s relationships or specifically Caregiver/little either. Just because it “seems” that way doesn’t mean it’s happening.
  • Submissives can be older than their Doms. You can be near the same age.
  • Age might imply wisdom but it’s no guarantee of anything.
  • Every relationship needs communication and consent. A big age difference might add a different layer to communication styles or how you view something, but the basics still apply.
  • Rejecting a potential partner based on age alone (older or younger) may mean you miss out on amazing relationships, opportunities, and experiences.

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  1. Thank you guys so much for this episode! My partner and I have an age difference too, except the other way around. The sub’s older 🙂 I loved this episode so much cuz it covered a topic that relates to me

  2. ahh this is one i definitely relate to. except also in inverse…my Miss is younger than i am. for us it’s not even a thing really, tho i am sure to the outside it looks unusual. i actually get a kick out of it…everyone’d expect it the opposite.

    age is just a number, and love and D/s knows nothing of those numbers.

    which is how it should be.

  3. W/we’ve got the inverse dynamic here…i’m older than my Miss/owner. it makes for some weird looks at times, like when She’s taking my hand and leading me places, but i wouldn’t change it for the world.

    it’s good. and pure. and right.

    and everything i need.

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