Raising Sex Positive, Kink Friendly Kids LB134

This week, we’re going back to a topic we’ve touched on in the past — parenting and BDSM. Instead of talking about how to get your kink on when you’ve got kids, let’s talk about how to raise kids to accept the sexuality, kinks, and genders of themselves and others.

In this episode:

  • We’re on hiatus for a week for a much-needed vacation.
  • Kayla went on a calm but firm Twitter rant/thread about talking to kids about sex.
  • The conversations might be hard to do, and you’ll likely stumble through them, but they need to be had.
  • Too many kids learn about sex from porn. Porn is fun and great (most of the time), but that’s not the best place to learn — especially not the free tube sites.
  • You can talk about these things at any age and keep it age-appropriate. We’ve had conversations where we talked about concepts like consent and kink without every saying BDSM or sex.
  • Think about how you felt (assuming it was negative) when you discovered your kinky nature. Is that how you want your children to feel when they discover something sexual about themselves?

Links from the show:

3 Conversations We’ve Had With Our Kids About Sex and Kink (blog post)

Being a Parent in a D/s Relationship (episode 46)

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4 Responses

  1. Oh boy. I just subscribed on my Podcast App… It looks like I have a LOT of listening to do! But I’m excited. 🙂 Thanks for sharing!

  2. Clara says:

    You guys are great! My parents definitely didn’t do so well with trying to raise sex positive kids. My siblings and I have all turned out fine, though.

  3. Rachel Foster says:

    I’m not sure if you’ll know who I am yet, however, a while back I told you I started at the beginning of the podcasts. I am desperately trying to carve out as much time to listen and read anything and everything from the two of you. But, I just had to stop and give some major kudos on this episode. I was so impressed with the way you’ve introduced sex positive language to your boys (I was always glad I only had girls; I would have no idea how to address these topics with boys). If course I realize that I’m time traveling (hehe) about 7 months or so. But any good parenting needs to be recognized!

    As always, I adore all you contribute and look forward to hearing and reading more…

    Forever a faithful cricket,
    Rachel Foster (raxleanne)

    • Kayla Lords says:

      Thank you so much! Being open with kids is still such a rare thing that I wonder if we’re doing the right thing, but I know we are. Especially since the only way to combat consent issues, toxic masculinity, and sexual repression is with real information. The boys still wish we weren’t quite so open, but they’re also becoming more open and sex positive in their own way as a result, so we must be on the right track. 🙂

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