What Does It Mean to Be Dominant or Submissive? LB133

This week’s episode is a big topic to wrap our arms around, and there’s no way we could cover every aspect of this in one episode. But it’s a start. We have very simple definitions of “Dom” and “sub” because the short answer is that it can mean whatever you want it to mean with whoever you’re with in a given moment.

In this episode:

  • Everyone has a different definition of Dominance and submission.
  • All definitions are valid as long as they have two components: consent and communication.
  • Is there such a thing as a “natural” Dom or sub?
  • Why deciding who’s “real” can be a problem.
  • We shouldn’t try to be like any other kind of Dom or sub. Emulate things that speak to you but don’t compare yourself or your partner to others.
  • Dominance and submission exist on a spectrum, just like everything else.

Links from the show:

Why We Need to Be Careful Who We Label a “Real” Dom or Sub (blog post)

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2 Responses

  1. July 30, 2018

    […] When you’re new to anything it’s easy to worry about whether you’re doing things “right” or not. Am I using the right label? Will I say the right thing? Is there a right way to be a submissive or Dominant? […]

  2. October 22, 2018

    […] In episode 133 this week, we’re going to dive into some of the definitions the community has for what it means to be a Dom or sub, from natural to real to good. And why we need to be very careful how we apply those definitions to ourselves and others. […]

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