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4 Ways to Use Blindfolds In Your BDSM Scene

Blindfolds have become so common that some people don’t even consider them kinky. To some, it’s kind of “kink-light.” But we agree with Molly Moore, over at Kink of the Week, who points out that anything can be kinky if you decide that it is. To prove it – and to provide scene ideas as requested by readers and members – we’re sharing a few potential scenes using blindfolds.

As with anything, take as much or as little from this as suits your personal tastes. Mix and match these ideas together or just let it be the inspiration for something else. The whole point is to see how blindfolds can be incorporated into whatever kinky thing you want to do.

Control over your partner’s senses is more powerful than you realize. As long as everyone consents, you can add a blindfold to nearly anything you do to heighten everything they experience.

Sensual Touch

It’s a common scene – a person, tied to a bed, a blindfold covering their eyes, waiting. Just…waiting. Every noise makes them jump or gasp. The anticipation and darkness heightens every sense. It sounds cliche, but it works.

John Brownstone put me in such a position early on in our relationship. It wasn’t the first time I’d worn one but it was the first time with him. Our power exchange was firmly established so I knew who was in charge. Imagine my surprise when, for the next hour, every touch upon my skin was gentle, loving, and…teasing.

He did not touch my clit or finger me. No pinched nipples or even pulled hair. Gentle and firm strokes of his hands only. At the end of the hour of so much attention, I begged for an orgasm as my body trembled. It was more powerful because it was so gentle – we’re use to painful rough, play and this was anything but.

Why did he do it? Other than “Because you let me, babygirl” response? Because he wanted to watch me and learn how I reacted to his touch. And because he could. Nothing rough about it, but he was definitely in control.

Exhibitionist Play

Blindfolds take control over your sight but give you more freedom than you might realize. For the exhibitionist who isn’t sure if they can handle the reality of being seen, blindfolds are an option.

Naked and kneeling on the floor or bed. Barely dressed and tied to a chair. Standing to the side, waiting to be “of use.” The position a sub or bottom finds themselves in is limited only by what you both consent to and your imagination.

Blindfold firmly in place, you allow a (mutually agreed upon third) in the room. Are they allowed to touch and run their hands over your body in ways you can’t predict? Will they simply watch as your partner brings you pleasure in whatever kinky way you love?

The worries, fears, or embarrassment of watching someone watch you is gone. You can’t see anything, and (consensually) you’re not in charge. You now have the freedom to enjoy the moment.

Bringing in a Third…or Not

Sometimes the fantasy and your imagination can be as good – or better than – the real thing. Bringing in a third person to your kinky play can be fun and exhilarating, but it’s not always to easy to find someone you’d like to let in on such an intimate moment. Or maybe you feel reality can’t match the fantasy.

With a blindfold and a little creativity, the room can sound and feel like more than just the two of you are present.

Blindfold your partner and have them get into position. Walk into the room so that your partner knows you’re there and distract them with…anything. The gag in their mouth. A vibrator against their clit or cock. Nipple clamps. The kinky promises you whisper in their ear. Now, quietly go back to the door, and make noise as if a third person has arrived.

Talk to this “guest” and continue talking about your partner or to them so it’s clear they’re the object of you and your “guest’s” desire. The mind is a powerful thing, and even if they know no one is there, they may wonder, “Could there be?”

Impact Play

For us, impact play is our main kink. It’s our go-to anytime we want to play. I love being hit, and he loves hitting me. Using blindfolds in an impact play scene makes it more intense.

Again, it’s cliche, but it works.

He always lightly touches me with a toy to tease me before he uses it. So I know what’s coming, and so I can anticipate the impact. That small little touch makes me wet and achy for him.

Blindfolded, I don’t always know where he is around me, especially for a scene in the BDSM club. The music is loud so I can’t hear him. He’s got 360 degree access which means he could be anywhere. And just because he touches me gently with a toy on one side doesn’t mean that’s where the first strike will land.

The not-knowing what it’s coming or where it’ll land intensifies my reaction. It’s always a surprise, and it’s always more painful. My entire body reacts in confusion – tight nipples and soaked pussy but also goosebumps and trembling, and I may or may not gnaw my lip with a little worry. It’s glorious!

Blindfolds get a bad rep for being boring or cliched. And they can be. Maybe you tried them long ago and just weren’t that sure about it. As long as it’s not a hard limit, feel free to try it again.

Having control over your partner doesn’t have to involve sharp commands, strict discipline, or high protocol. Sometimes it’s as simple as removing their sight for a while and surprising them at every touch.

Okay, we know this isn’t the only way to play with blindfolds. Feel free to share your favorite scenes in the comments below! 

10 Comments

  1. All these ideas sound great and give me kinky thoughts for my next session.

  2. A little imagination goes a long way, and it’s only inability or refusal to use one’s imagination that makes a thing “boring” – kinky or otherwise. These are all great examples of how NOT-boring the commonplace-ality of blindfolds can be. 🙂

    Just a safety note, since your post is structured as informational/educational: loss of sight can impact a person’s balance, so it’s always important that the blindfolded person be acclimated to their surroundings if expected to walk or stand. Having either a steadying anchor or a secure seat (inanimate or human – take your pick!) available and within reach is always a good idea. 🙂

    • Kayla Lords

      January 23, 2018 at 7:44 pm

      Two things I love here…”commonplace-ality” – I feel like that needs to be a word that gets used more often…

      And two, the safety reminder. That’s a very good point. Most of my experiences with blindfolds have been in prone or bound positions so it’s not something I automatically think of. Thank you! 🙂

  3. The leather is cool against my chest as I lean into position on the modified spanking bench. I feel vulnerable, exposed and yet strangely very peaceful in this position. I’ve been blindfolded, it’s soft against my face. I’m trying to decide if the darkness is peaceful or terrifying, this is new.
    I relax into it, closing my eyes trying to take note of the sounds around me. I have no idea what to expect, and that excites the hell out of me. I can’t hear him moving around, he’s very quiet. I feel him on my left and then I hear his breath. It’s slow, controlled, and I feel myself melting further into the bench.
    I feel his fingers caressing my left arm and a small smile slowing makes its way across my face.
    Then I hear the click and my heart skips a beat. My wrist cuffs are being attached to the spanking bench with something cold, metal I think. My mind is whirling, analyzing.
    What are the likely locking options? What would I choose? How likely is it that I could get out?
    I realize now that both my arms and ankles are now securely fastened to the bench. I’ve been over analyzing again, lost in my head. He’s checking the restraints, asking me how I’m doing. I chastise myself, Focus.
    “I’m good Sir, very good”.
    “We are going to play a little game,” he says.
    “You are going to figure out my favorite football team, each guess will cost you ten strikes. I choose the implement. The closer you are to the correct answer the more likely you are to enjoy what I choose. It will be obvious when you are very far off.”

    This sounds really fun, and I am feeling very confident. I can reason this out. Hell, I might even purposely throw out a few incorrect ones at first just to get a few good swats in. I can feel my ass start to tingle and he hasn’t touched me yet, now I know why my legs are secured. It’s so I can’t gain any relief, I desperately want just a little pressure and feel myself lean in towards the bench.
    Nothing, and I’m soaked. That little voice in my head tells me I should be embarrassed by this clearly wanton display, but I’m not.
    I’m just overwhelmed and desperate.
    We begin with a warm up, nice. Not sure what he’s using, but I’d put this in the like column. It’s warm, smooth and wide, the impact is dispersed, and my ass is warmed up nicely.
    I wonder what that is? Paddle maybe? Did I see one on the table?
    Was there one hanging on the wall? Shit, he said something, and I was lost in my head again, I am an idiot and I’m going to ruin this, Focus.
    Team… I’m sure he asked about a team.

    I venture a guess. I pick a team I’m pretty sure isn’t correct, but is likely in the top 3-5, Steelers.

    I wait, I listen.
    He’s moving towards me with something that has motion, I can hear as he adjust the falls. It’s a flogger of some sort. There were many on the wall, some made out of very scary things like Ethernet cords. Some made out of things I’d really love like leather and a new rubber looking one I’m unsure about.
    I’m waiting, has it been a few seconds or minutes? I can feel the hairs on the back of my neck standing at attention.

    Then I feel it, it’s not a flogger that’s for sure.
    Still, I have no idea what it is. I don’t hate it but buy the 6th strike I’m sure the Steelers was the wrong answer. Now I’m thinking purposely guessing wrong was a majorly stupid idea.

    Time to use the brain and reason this out.

    I know where he grew up, I know where he went to school and were he currently lives. I know that he is intensely loyal to his college teams, so I venture a guess that he grew up watching and has stayed with the local teams of his youth.

    Wrong answer.
    Next.
    Very wrong answer.
    What is that? Holy shit. Am I dripping on the bench? Oh god.
    Next.
    Wrong again.
    Several more guesses. Still wrong.
    Now I can’t think. I’m definitely out of my head.
    I can’t see anything going on around me.
    What has he used? What is left?
    I’m losing track of what I’ve even guessed.
    Wait, this can’t happen. I was so sure. I’ve named every team on the East Coast. I know Football. There is no one left.
    I’m sure not saying the one team I know he hates. I value my ass much too much for that. So, who can it be?

    Well, my dad’s favorite team was the Cowboys. I haven’t said that one yet. Now I’m talking out loud. I’m out of my own head. I’m arguing with myself and he can hear every word. “It can’t be the Cowboys, they are too far away, it’s not them, maybe it’s them. Who else is left?”
    “Is that your answer”? he asks.
    “Ummm, No Sir”. I’m picturing that damn Ethernet flogger.
    I’ve gone through everything. How can I not have the right team by now?
    Damn it.
    I was so sure this was going to be easy.
    I’m running through every team in my head, some I said twice.
    He’s holding something, and I swear I can almost feel the smirk on his face. If I could just see what he’s holding or see his face I could probably read him well enough to know if I had the right answer. If I had seen his face it would have been easier to watch for those little tells everyone gets.
    I got nothing.
    “Cowboys, Sir”.
    “Are you sure this time”? Again, he’s giving me an out.
    I’m going back and forth so much my head is a mess, I’m completely out of options and beyond turned on at having been bested in something that should have been so simple. This is my last guess, so I go for it.
    “Cowboys, Sir” I’m sure. Really, I’m not sure at all. The only thing I know for sure is this is fucking hot. Am I allowed to cum while I’m getting this last round? Should I ask? Better wait and see if I’m wrong.
    And then I feel it. Definitely right answer.
    Go Cowboys!

  4. Did I forget to mention in my lust induced haze…that was one of my favorite scenes involving a blindfold. It was so much fun, combined several things I really like. Sports, mental gymnastics, sensory deprivation and impact play.

  5. I love that suggestion of how to use it to explore a third person fantasy, that is such a sexy idea

    Mollyx

  6. Oooh – I love the exhibitionist play idea! I’ve been in lots of threesomes but have never been blindfolded while two people played with me – or blindfolded a partner and had a third come in. #goals…

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