Setting a Kinky Scene LB085

This week, we’re answering a listener question with more details than they actually asked for. The original question was about how to set up a scene. In our opinion, a scene is whatever you make it, so it doesn’t have to be elaborate or high protocol. For us, we call most of our scenes “playtime.”

In this episode:

  • Our sponsor this week is Ecstatic Relaxation with Vin Charles. He’s got a special offer just for Loving BDSM listeners!
  • Kinky Book Club is a real live thing!
  • Is there a difference between a scene and “playtime?”
  • Scenes can be rigid, filled with protocol, and elaborate…or not.
  • Playtime, for us, is whatever we do that’s kinky – with or without sex.
  • Some scenes are roleplay.
  • Mind fucks can be a scene.
  • Scenes or playtime all require communication and negotiation.
  • Knowing your partner’s limits before you plan the scene is important.
  • Talking about the details doesn’t take away the hotness.
  • Scenes can be as basic or as detailed as you want.
  • It’s important to go with the flow. Not all scenes will go as you imagined.
  • Be flexible, communicate, use safewords, and watch your partner.

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8 Responses

  1. packergirl1294 says:

    Was I the only one who said awe and thought it was so cute when John told Kayla that she was fine the way she is?

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