We thought episode 83 would be a discussion about how to handle long distance D/s relationships, but when we realized we spent nearly an hour on communication and figuring out if someone is a good fit for you, it became a two-part episode. We can’t promise we won’t need a third part, though.

In this episode:

  • Sign up for 30 Days of D/s!
  • This episode was inspired by a great discussion on the forum about long distance relationships.
  • The first step is to decide if this person is a good fit for you.
  • Develop “trust issues” if you don’t have them already to be more skeptical. 
  • Earn the other person’s trust.
  • Slow down and take your time.
  • Get to know each other as people and friends. Focus a little less on the kink.
  • Transition into the D/s after you’ve gotten to know each other.
  • Become friends first
  • The first person you meet might not be the one who’s good for you.

Links from the Show:

Building and Maintaining Trust in a D/s Relationship (episode 31)

Effective Communication in Your D/s Relationship (episode 40)

30 Days of D/s

Postcard shout-outs to: Doctor J (check out her website!) and Professor Sex (follow her on Twitter or Instagram!)

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Kayla Lords on Fetlife

John Brownstone on Fetlife

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