Handling Other People’s Opinion of Your D/s Relationship LB069

Episode 69 (bow chicka wow wow) is the first episode of 2017 and after a holiday spent with friends and family, it felt right to do a topic based on a listener’s question: How do you handle the negative opinions from vanilla family and friends over your D/s relationship?

In this episode:

  • John Brownstone received a slightly judgy comment on a blog post calling our kink “abuse.”
  • A lot of us have just spent extra time around family and friends, some of who might wonder about your kinky relationship, whether you’re out or not.
  • You might get comments, looks, or judgement from those who don’t know you’re kinky but maybe notice something different.
  • Or, like at least one listener, judgement from those who do know and don’t approve.
  • Coming out to anyone about your kink is a personal decision and there’s no right or wrong answer about what to do.
  • Before you share your kinky life with others, assess possible risks – people lose jobs and kids over their kink.
  • One way to “deal” with vanilla friends and family who make snide remarks or judge you is to develop a thick skin and confidence in who you are as a kinkster and a person – but it takes time.
  • You may never change their mind, but you don’t have to. Be who you are, and they will either accept it or not.
  • If you have to, remove yourself from the conversation, change the subject, or avoid their presence (if possible).
  • If a “friend” is refusing to believe you or listen to you, and says mean, ugly things to you, are they really your friend?
  • As with other things in life where we disagree – think politics – you can still love someone you don’t understand or agree with – your family and friends should be able to do the same thing. And hopefully they will.

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Links from the show:

My Ongoing Internal Debate: Opening Up About Kink or Not

Aftercare and Punishment (John Brownstone)

Childcare and Divorce: Considerations for Alternative Lifestyles (NCSF)

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