Understanding Boundaries and Limits LB062

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone discuss boundaries and limits in episode 62 of the Loving BDSM podcast.

In this episode:

  • Save 10 percent on the HUM vibe with coupon code: kaylalords
  • What are limits and boundaries?
  • Is there a difference?
  • Hard limit vs. soft limit.
  • Hard limits can be anything. Twitter friend mentioned tickling as a limit for her. Whatever it is, must be respected.
  • Soft limits often come from a place of lack of knowledge
  • Use checklist to learn your limits and discover what you both like (or don’t like)
  • Talk about what you think your limits are in the beginning of a relationship but update as you go along.
  • As you get used to your partner or learn more about what you like and don’t like, your limits change.
  • When trying something new, start slowly. Exercise patience.
  • How you handle a new experience will color your feelings about that boundary or limit forever. Take it slow. Communicate, communicate, communicate.
  • Every aspect of BDSM has a boundary or a limit for you, even if you haven’t discovered it yet.

Links from the Show:

MeetHum.com Use coupon code “kaylalords” and save 10 percent!

I Wanted Him to Watch (review for the Hum)

Using Checklist to Figure Out Your Kinky Limits

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2 Responses

  1. July 25, 2018

    […] “rules” isn’t the right word. It seems a bit harsh and dictatorial. I have boundaries and things I need to receive in order to feel comfortable. As long as these things hold true, […]

  2. June 12, 2020

    […] Understanding Boundaries and Limits (episode 62) […]

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