Why Dominants Should Express Their Emotions LB049

Kayla Lords hosts episode 49 and discusses why dominants should express their emotions – good and bad, but especially the bad – and why it’s important to a long-term loving D/s relationship.

In this episode:

  • This week’s show is based on an email from a submissive friend who saw something on Fetlife from a Dominant who needed their submissive to “be there” for him during a rough time – and worried that it made him less Dominant.
  • We’ve talked about why submissives don’t always let our Dominants take care of us. Now it’s time to talk about being there for our Dominants more than what most people think of as the traditional D/s power exchange.
  • Many Dominants think they always have to be strong and in control. But life happens.
  • It’s okay for Dominants to show their emotions. It requires trust in the relationship and a certain amount of faith that their submissive won’t respond negatively.
  • Trust is built through communication and honesty and over time.
  • Submissives take care of Dominants in many ways. When they’re stressed or sad or worried is just another one of those ways. Dominants take care of us, so now it’s our turn.
  • Showing your emotions or needing extra care doesn’t make you weak.
  • Submissives, you can’t force your Dominant to share their emotions but you can let them know you’re open and willing to listen. It’s important not to be judgmental.
  • If a submissive is strong enough to handle the power exchange and giving up control, they’re certainly powerful enough to handle emotions from their Dominant.

Links from the show:

Why Do Subs Have a Hard Time Accepting Help From Our Doms? (podcast episode)

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1 Response

  1. October 24, 2018

    […] me that something isn’t right, I push back a little. Dominants tend to believe (falsely) that they have to be strong every moment of the day. What we need more than strength is […]

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