Signs of a Bad or Failing D/s Relationship LB047

Kayla Lords hosts episode 47, and it focuses on a lot of emails and messages that have come through about what’s okay and what’s not in a D/s relationship.

In this episode:

  • No John Brownstone for another week – but it’s his last week on the crazy summer schedule at work, so he’ll be back soon.
  • A lot of emails have come through from both Doms and subs  with questions about their relationships.
  • Even if you don’t want to admit it to yourself, you know when a relationship has gone bad.
  • It requires both of you working together to figure out a way forward. 
  • Here are some signs of a bad D/s relationship – and yes, some will look like “red flags” that we’ve discussed before.
  • Unwilling to communicate
  • Changing the rules with no warning
  • Punishing without explaining
  • Saying things like “I’m the Dom, I can do what I want” with no negotiation or consent
  • Doubts about opening up your relationship but feeling like you have no choice
  • Emotional manipulation which isn’t the same as a mindfuck
  • Lying
  • Wanting two incompatible things and not willing or able to find a middle ground 
  • It’s better to be alone than in a bad relationship. If you can’t make it work, have the strength to walk away.
  • Yes, submissives can end a relationship.

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