Building and Maintaining Trust in a D/s Relationship LB031

Kayla Lords and John Brownstone are back again for another long, winding conversation. Episode 31 focuses on trust – building it and maintaining it – in a D/s relationship.

From the show:

  • Trust issues will rear their ugly head at the strangest times.
  • Consistency plays a large part in building trust between two people.
  • Trust is important whether your D/s relationship is loving or just for play.
  • Do what you say you’ll do.
  • Developing a sense of trust in a long distance relationship takes constant communication and a willingness to be open about the details.
  • Anyone who’s had at least one bad break-up has to overcome the memories that play in their head (John Brownstone calls these “bad tapes”) in order to commit, trust, and move on to something better.
  • Once in a relationship, trust issues can still be a factor – blame the “bad tapes.” The fix is consistency, honesty, and integrity.
  • When trust is broken, what you choose to do about it is unique to you: repair the relationship or move one – but it must be dealt with in some way or you’ll never move on.

Links from the show:

With Trust, Anything is Possible

Trust in Dominance and Submission

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3 Responses

  1. June 28, 2017

    […] bad tapes). Even though your partner says and does the right things, you’re still not sure you can trust them. Your mind is constantly thinking, “What […]

  2. October 17, 2018

    […] of the most important things about establishing trust as a Dominant (beyond communication and consent) is following through and doing what you say […]

  3. April 3, 2019

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