Consent Is More Than Yes or No in BDSM LB030

John Brownstone joins Kayla Lords for episode 30 and this week’s topic is a big one: consent. Join them in a long and winding conversation about what consent means and look like in a D/s relationship.

In this episode:

  • Special shout-out to Tumblr follower, Ruth Kay, for inspiring the episode.
  • Kayla says one word that is a favorite of some listeners.
  • John Brownstone discusses consent when a submissive is drunk.
  • Consent is more than yes or no.
  • Informed consent means understanding what is will happen, communicating what won’t happen, and understanding how toys or implements will feel before they are used.
  • What does implied consent mean?
  • In a 24/7 power exchange relationship, Dominants may have permission to take what they want, but it doesn’t mean they always should.
  • Dominants have a responsibility to their submissives well-being and health – mental, emotional, and physical.
  • Submissives have a responsibility to communicate how they feel, if they’re upset or sick, and anything else that may affect a Dominant’s decision.
  • Consent requires a certain amount of trust.
  • Communication and consent go hand-in-hand.
  • Dominants are able to withdraw their consent by ending a scene or refusing to engage in certain activities.
  • Basically, there’s much more to consent than yes or no.

Links from the show:

Shout out Ruth Kay on Tumblr for inspiring this week’s episode!

Do You Understand Informed Consent?

Silent Safewords (DomGuide.com)

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4 Responses

  1. January 22, 2018

    […] over your partner’s senses is more powerful than you realize. As long as everyone consents, you can add a blindfold to nearly anything you do to heighten everything they […]

  2. October 24, 2018

    […] of BDSM is consent. It’s something you should actively seek throughout your relationship. Consent doesn’t stop once your partner agrees to be your submissive. It’s an ongoing, living, breathing, moving […]

  3. October 29, 2018

    […] Consent is the cornerstone of BDSM. It’s given before you touch, whether it’s a person or their toys. In a public play space, people are very careful about getting consent for everything. Imagine you are surrounded by strangers, you do not want them touching you or your things without your permission. […]

  4. March 13, 2019

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