8 Things to Know About Scratching

bear claws for scratching

Raking your nails down your partner’s back during good sex. Adding a bit of spice during a back rub. Getting your partner’s attention when their back is turned. These are just some of the ways John Brownstone and I have experienced scratching in our kinky play. Oh, and did I mention primal sex that’s rougher…

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On Meeting New People and Finding Your “Tribe” LB119

episode 119 of Loving BDSM

This week, on a suggestion from a listener, we’re talking about how to figure out who your kink community might be. Instead of vetting potential kinksters to play with or be in a relationship with, this is more about figuring out your kinky “tribe” of friends. We discuss taking stock of people and figuring out…

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7 Things to Consider When Meeting People In the Kink Community

meeting people in the kink community

In the kink community, whether online or in-person, we meet a lot of people who make us say, “I’m not sure how I feel about them.” Some come across as overly aggressive. Others are dismissive. And, of course, there are plenty of predators out there, happy to take advantage of a newbies. I’ve written about…

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For the Love of Boots

pair of cowboy boots

The current Kink of the Week is all about boots. While I (Kayla) own and love them, my feelings are nothing compared to John Brownstone’s. So I asked if he’d share his love and fetish for boots with y’all. If you relate, feel free to comment below!  I suppose it’s no big secret, but I…

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Mentors and Protectors in BDSM LB118

Episode 118 of Loving BDSM discusses BDSM mentors and protectors

This week we’re talking about BDSM mentors and protectors: what they are, whether they’re necessary, and what to consider if you choose to find one or become one. In this episode: This week’s sponsor is Play, the first ever kink lifestyle brand bringing you Playboxes of kinky fuckery! Use code lovingbdsm and save! We discussed…

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